A girl is precious and rare, a woman to be and because of her existence you live
Oh my people do you ever think of the goodness she holds? Potential unleashed?
Then why deny her the opportunity to shine?
Let her shine side by side with her brothers, show her the way and encourage her
My people, my people…she is worth much more
Father, mother – give her an education, only then shall we reap good fruit for our land
My elders and leaders enough of child marriage, abuse and child neglect
Rise and unleash your wrath on the culprits
So misery and poverty will be a thing of the past
Her education concerns us all, for she is the future and the pride of our land
Educating our girls will surely fill the land with success!
One key session we always hold with boys and girls in and out of school is LIFE SKILLS- at Trailblazers Mentoring Foundation we find it important to build secure, confident and decisive young lives. These sessions are designed to equip young people with practical ways of putting the knowledge they have into use in their day to day living. We at TMF are committed to supporting young people and want to walk with them as they journey through life working to succeed both now and in the future.
I joined Trailblazers Mentoring Foundation as a mentee in 2013 and the first activity I was involved in after orientation and meeting my mentors was a life skills workshop. I wasn’t sure what we were going to do but I really looked forward to meeting new faces and making friends with other children from different schools. This particular workshop was facilitated by two mentors (Ms. Joyce and Ms. Elizabeth) and we had a guest inspirational speaker Mrs. Mugisha Grace Nanyonga a young successful entrepreneur with a unique life testimony. I greatly admire her and have always enjoyed her company for each day with her you learn many useful and inspiring things…
Our facilitators introduced us to life skills the special abilities that help us to go through life both in good but especially in the hard times. We covered skills of knowing and living with one self. I found the sessions fun because we did exercises and presentations, we shared thoughts on self awareness looking at who we are, our strengths, weaknesses, emotions, fears, background and culture; this session helped me understand how unique and special I am. We also learned about assertiveness a skill whereby you know what you want and why, being able to communicate it in a gentle but firm manner and being ready to stand by your decision, no matter what. Then we looked at coping with stress and emotion, we discussed how important it is to manage or adjust to different situations so we can prevent a break down.
We covered more skills that help us live in harmony with others, skills to deal with conflict in a more peaceful manner. And with skill covered I further appreciated my life, my friends, my family and the importance of speaking out on issues that deal with as we are growing up. I made sure I shared the knowledge I got that day with my friends at school and at home. I wasn’t sure the workshop would be any good but turns out I had so much fun, learned new things, started journaling and also looked forward to another session just like this one
My biggest lesson for the day was the fact that I am unique, I am special, I am the future and I am change…
I am not sure if you have done the life skills session before, if not I challenge you to do so and also share with your friends. We all need to know about life skills. I wish you the best in all you do and remember to enjoy yourself while you learn or read about life skills.
“A girl in my class started menstruating when we were at school; she was scared and didn’t understand what was happening. I knew what was going on but didn’t know how to help her so I told her to go see the senior woman teacher…” Jeremy primary 7
“When I reached primary six I learned of changes at puberty, I saw many girls miss school because of menstruation and others were simply shy” Emmanuel Primary 6 West
“When I began menstruation I was scared, I thought I was going to bleed to death, I thought I was sick. When my mother talked to me I felt better” Sharon Primary 6- stream West “I began menstruating earlier than most of my friends so when they started their periods too I taught them how to make a local sanitary pad (homemade, advised them not to miss school and taught them how to keep clean during menstruation” Christine Primary 6
“When I began menstruating I wasn’t afraid because when I was 7 years I often saw my elder sister wear sanitary pads and when I asked her explained to me everything. I was prepared” Maureen
“As I was in class my neighbor a girl stood up to give an answer and I saw blood on her uniform behind. I didn’t know what to do I called the class monitor to help this sick girl. I heard she was taken to the senior woman…” 12 year old boy in Primary 6
“When my period arrived, I feared so much and I couldn’t tell my mother what had happened. I kept it to myself until it got out of hand then I told her, she bought me always sanitary pads, told me not to fear because menstruation was a good sign of my growing up” 11 year old girl in Primary 4
“When I began to menstruate I got lower stomach pain, back ache and I was very uncomfortable. I felt relieved when it all came to an end only to see the same things again the following month and the next…” Ketty Primary 5
“When I started menstruation, I was 13 years old, it all began one Saturday evening and the following day I had to go to church but had nothing to use so I wore all my knickers. The following day I wanted to go to school but had nothing to wear, my aunt who I lived with saw me and told me now that I began menstruation I was going to get pregnant, that worried me but I didn’t not understand why she said that. I went to school and during the English lesson I asked my teacher to help me. She gave me pads and even taught me how to use them.” Happy Primary 6
“When I was in menstruation the first day I felt ashamed, I thought I was going to die. I thought I was pregnant.” Safina Primary 6
The month of August 2014 has truly been special to Trailblazers Mentoring Foundation, our focus has been on Menstrual Hygiene and Management among young girls in primary school (9years -15years) and health club members (both boys and girls) to introduce them to homemade pads, address issues of menstrual management and personal hygiene.
Meeting over 1000 young people this month, Trailblazers mentors discussed issues of growth and coping with the changes that occur. In all the many sessions held in over 15 schools, the tension and unease was overwhelming. Menstruation isn’t something you discuss openly with your child and it has been this way for ages. But for how long would we whisper or keep silent about something natural, beautiful and manageable? The start of menstruation is a momentous event in a young girl’s life. However many girls embrace those first drops of blood with fear, confusion and shock NEVER joy. All because they are never prepared for the changes that are soon to occur at puberty
The on- set of menstruation highly contributes to the drop out, absenteeism and low completion rates for girls in Uganda and many other countries that struggle with the same issue. This highly compromises the quality of education because many girls lack the support and ability to manage menstruation. UNICEF estimates that 1 in 10 girls skips school for 4 -5 days for every 28 days cycle or drops out completely. We then ask the boys and girls to work out the amount of days lost, well 4-5 days means this girl loses 13 learning days which is equivalent to 2 weeks of school and 104 hours of class time every term. About 23% of girls between the ages of 12 -18 drop out of school when they begin menstruation.
This background is eye opening to school administrators, parents/guardians, boys and girls. It brings out the very reason each one of us as a stakeholder to break the silence on menstruation or watch on as more and more bright futures are cut short over a manageable natural beautiful process. On average, our girls start their periods when they’re 12 or 13 years old (although some begin earlier or later). However when we keep silent and never prepare them for the changes that occur at puberty or talk to them when it has already began then that’s too late.
Now, the question is, how do we do you discuss menstruation, avail our young boys and girls with age appropriate information, offer guidance and support, before this big day even arrives? The boys? Why even bother bringing the boys on board? Well, our boys spend a lot of time with girls while at school -9 months to be exact. When not educated about menstruation they turn out to be the ones that tease and bully the girls if they ever soil their dressing at school or in the community. However when talked to about menstrual hygiene and management they appreciate the whole process, support and guide the girls in their school, community and homes.
At this point you can see a dozen questions written all over their beautiful faces, they hunger for knowledge on this mysterious topic. Given an opportunity they ask how they can tell a girl is soon going to start menstruation, how does a girl get ready for their period, how long does menstruation last, how much blood does a girl lose, what do you do if you stain/ soil your clothing, how does a girl use sanitary towels- the list of questions is endless. Addressing all these questions helps them plan and prepare accordingly, tell them of the good and bad materials as we have found some using news papers, leaves, banana fibre, cotton wool, toilet paper among many other materials. We need to talk to them on what is good to use, not good to use and why. Demonstrate how to use a sanitary towel, make one by yourself, and address issues of personal hygiene, proper disposal taking into consideration of the environment.
By the time we conclude the session, the health club and school administration have work plans on how to support girls manage menstruation periods. We have them rethink their school system in line with being gender responsive- have emergency sanitary towels and uniform, put in place a washroom with soap, water, jerrycans, basins/buckets for girls to freshen up while at school, have health club sessions in classes by the children for the children, have an incinerator in place and educate the school on proper disposal, promote the making of homemade pads because they are affordable.
Asking the girls and boys if menstruation is or should be a problem like they thought at the start of the session? Faces light up bright and each spring up with a response… they are the generation left behind to transform their schools and communities, breaking the silence on menstruation and keeping girls in school!
Breaking the silence begins with me and you dear reader, let us break the silence right from our homes, do away with shame and share information far and wide Trailblazers Mentoring Foundation is here to support and learn from you too…
Dear Partners, Parents, fellow Mentors, Friends and Young people,
Our blog is finally here!!
We are excited and are looking forward to journeying with you through our different programs and information sharing. We work with young people through tailored made and practical sessions to see them through a smooth transition from childhood to adult hood by overcoming educational and psycho-social challenges they encounter in life that hinder their development to full potential. Our vision is to have a generation of responsible, empowered, economically independent and healthy individuals.
We are looking forward to more engagement and dialogues with you.